The saying that sorry is a magic word that cannot be overemphasized. Saying sorry can actually save one from a lot of troubles. I never knew this until few years ago after I got married.
Growing up, I never saw it as necessary to apologise to anyone for anything, I mean anyone, not even my parents. I prefer to be flogged for doing wrong than say sorry.
It's not as if I do it intensionally, I'm not just used to the word. I could say that it's not one of the words in my dictionary, I didn't know how much my husband cherished the word. At first when we were dating, I never wronged him he is usually the one that offends me then and I always enjoy it when he begs and bribes me to forgive him.
After we got married, the table turned I always do what he says he doesn't like or not doing what he wants. This will always blow up into bigger problems that will linger for days at times weeks. Issues that external bodies have had to intervain. So, one day he was so angry at me about something I didn't do right, and I was there telling him that I was not wrong, trying to justify myself, then he said; "can't you say sorry?" I calmed down and thought about it for a while still acting though.
He left the house that afternoon.
Normally, he will return within two hours but I didn't see him for about six hours. I called his numbers but they were switched off. I became so scared. I started praying and crying, promising God that I will never quarrel with my husband again, that if he gets home safely I will apologize to him, that I will always say I'm sorry whenever I'm wrong instead of justifying myself.
At about 10:30 pm, he came back home I was happy but tried to act as though I wasn't bothered. I served his food and he said he wasn't hungry, something he had never done before. I need no prophet to tell me that I've crossed the line. I just jejely(humbly) knelt down in front of him there and begged him as if my life depended on it. I told him that I'm sorry and I kept repeating it like a proverbial monkey that was asked to say simple Amen to the prayer of the tortoise but he refused when the tortoise was through with the monkey, he said amen countless times and is believed that the monkey is still saying amen.
Husband man was so angry. That he opened my book of offenses and started giving me details of the things I did in the past but didn't bother to apologise. He made me realize that day, how much he feels hurt anytime I defend myself or justify myself on things I should have just said sorry about and how he tried to defend me when his family member reported a similar issue to him of how I justified my actions instead of accepting the fact that I was wrong.
I felt bad about the whole issue because I didn't realize what I was doing. I decided to always accept my fault and always apologize when necessary. I'm now a pro in saying sorry that even my husband will be like "Sorry sorry sorry all the time". Lols he asked for it and he's getting it.
In a nutshell, saying sorry saves you from a lot of drama from friends, family, colleagues, bosses and the likes. There is a proverb where I come from that when an offender acknowledges his offence he will not stay long on his knees.
This write up was inspired by hive learner's community challenge on the topic; I'm sorry.
Thanks for reading.
