I think this is a field where everyone is probably right and wrong at the same time because we actually don't know what we are talking about, we have no proof and we have no "unproof" so it is like a no man's land your ideas are just as good as mine or anybody's.

1. If Tom's idea of a good weekend is killing and raping at least 5 innocent women is his idea of a good weekend right or wrong?

2. Is there any proof or unproof it is or isn't?

3. Is his idea of a good weekend as good as yours?

I am not going to change my ideas because of what someone else believes nor is it my idea to try to make someone think like I do.

• And if Tom was your adult son, would you try to influence him to think like you in terms of what a good weekend should be, or would you let him continue to think that weekends are about murder and rape?