I'm not a parent but I'm guilty with this kind of mindset. When I was still a Manager, I usually compare my time as a newbie to the newbies. I realized how toxic it was and sometimes irrelevant. People have their own journey to go through and it was something too hard for me to accept.

I'm sorry you have to deal such thing with your family. Our parents often times say words that they don't mean but for us, it means so much.