No matter how many times I say it, it will still never get through to some women:
Men also have worries, they also have insecurities, and they also have sadness. They also feel manipulated or threatened at times and they also live under pressure.
How often do we see an article on social media, or a meme or a quote about how hard life is for a woman. She menstruates for most of her life, has to endure pains, go through hormone fluctuations, and she brings children into the world. All very tough and I as a woman feel for them.
But that doesn't mean that men have an easy life. From an early age they hear that
'Boys don't cry. A boy who cries is pussy.'
How many times did you hear that? Ridiculous amount of times, didn't you?
As a child when they go out they already hear that they have to watch out for their mother or sister.
Many women grow up, study and go to work to earn their own money and do something with their money for themselves (ofcourse there are women who provide for family also; respect for that).
Men grow up with it crammed into their heads that they have to work to take care of their wife and children later on.
Yes, yes I know...there comes the endless discussion about it being in the man to provide and to take care of women. And that's all ok: if nature is such that the man is in the world to provide and the woman for other things, then that's all ok.
What is not ok is if the woman stands around screaming that her life is harder than the man's. We may not have the same concerns as them, but we both live under a certain pressure in society.
We women all want appreciation and respect for bringing children into the world in such pain.
So can we take a moment once in a while to have appreciation and respect for that man who does want to go out and buy something for himself, but still chooses to use his money for his family? Or for the man who works very hard so his children can go to college?
A man who cries is not a pussy. He is a man who has been strong for a very long time and can do no more.
In the past year in Suriname, many more men committed suicide than women. Isn't that food for thought?
There is one thing that I've always asked people and I never got an answer:
When a woman slaps a man, we say 'He definitely did something. He deserved it. He's a bad person.'
If a man slaps a woman, we say 'How can he hit a woman? He is a bad man.'
Why? Why do we always blame the men?
Men also deserve to be loved.❤️
**Thank you for reading. **
