WEIGHTIER MATTERS!
I had just finished my lecture yesterday and periodically I entertain questions about life. On second thought, all the atoms and molecules I teach them about are not nearly as relevant to life as hyped in times past and I myself the lecturer have not even seen a single atom before!!!
My class typically comprises of single mothers,single fathers, unmarried singles and married people. The question basket went round, I got a couple of questions but this one hit me below the belt!
MY HUSBAND NEVER WANTS SEX? HE WATCHES PORN AND MASTURBATES.
We must distinguish between a wife with a higher sex drive and the man with the non-existent sex drive. One situation is representative of a normal difference in desire but the other indicates a deeper underlying problem. While both may have differing sexual appetites, it is not normal for a man to never want to go intimate with his wife.
A lot of men than care to admit were introduced to porn as boys and engaged in this secret solo sex but to the rest of the world, they presented as virgins, got married as a panacea but all to no avail!
Those images from the past still are seared into the brain and impact a man's sexual response in his marriage many years after, his brain is trained to respond to only graphic sexual stimuli so he is unable to enjoy normal sex with his wife and then periodically, he shrinks in shame and in pain and night crawls to numb the pain and barks at his spouse to erase the shame so the wife suffers starvation and deprivation and begins to thirst for affirmation and drifts into a waiting George's arm who readily does her Georgestice.....her husband still plunged in his body is totally unaware of the drift, his wife is sailing past! These duo may or may not have sex but they bond in a thousand more ways and the crack begins to show but no one talks about this! Very few tell about theirs and so I salute the courage of the lady who dared to spill this!
The good news is that there is a way out, every brain can be rewired from anomalies to "normalies"!!! God understands our bodies, our limitations and longings, so ask him to bless your sex life and use these difficulties and rough patches to help you be more like him!
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Emmanuel-Abdalmasih Samson writes; marriage is simple to the humble and complicated to the arrogant.
