We evaluate our actions every day, compare what we are and what we are with what we would like to be, and accordingly we have expectations from ourselves:
The result of these estimates and comparisons is self-image that may be less or less positive or negative. If really "i" does not agree with the expected or ideal "i" person will have reduced self-confidence. As a result, he feels disappointed that he has not achieved goals (most often too high) he or she has set for others. It will be shy and unsafe in their actions and decisions.
In most people's moods change depending on the daily situations in which they find themselves. You've got an exam, got married with a partner, had a failed presentation - we all feel unsuccessful, disappointed, sad sometimes.
However, self-confidence is somewhat more stable than daily mood swings. In people who have a normal dose of self-confidence, life successes and failures temporarily affect the self-perception, but only to a certain extent.
Conversely, in people with low self-esteem, these daily ups and downs greatly affect the image of yourself because the person does not separate from their actions. At each and every failure, they respond to self-accusation. They have declared themselves guilty, once for all have concluded that they are stupid, worthless, incompetent. Because of the negative view of the world, they feel that everyone is successful in what they do except them.
Lack of self-confidence and belief in yourself can have very unwanted consequences:
People with low self-esteem do not seek help because they believe they do not deserve it. Low self-esteem is a reflection of what our parents or guardians referred to us in the past.
We get it in childhood and we are upgraded through life. The good news is that if we did not get enough positive childhood feedback from our caregivers and the environment, we have the ability to build it now in adulthood.
Making the decision that we will change what does not meet us is most important in the process of change. The decisions precede the awareness of our own discontent and the perception that we are preventing ourselves from advancing ourselves. Once we decide to change only what we can change - ourselves, we will be able to act without stumbling and sabotage.
Changing your own behavior is not always a simple and pleasant thing. This includes our values and beliefs that we have been gaining in years and sometimes we will need more effort and desire to change, in order to make our ineffective beliefs and behaviors transformed into effective and healthy for us. In addition, our feelings are involved. Many people fear the change so blocked to remain in their negativity and suffering because their familiar environment gives a false sense of security and control over life. But research results show that most of our fears are never realized and that is why every effort in the direction of a positive change makes a lot of sense.
To gain more confidence, we must first and foremost recognize and accept ourselves as ourselves, accepting everything that we do not like and what we can not change from the past.
Get to know yourself trying new things and let yourself fail. Instead of a sharp self-criticism, ask yourself:
Building self-esteem is of utmost importance to take care of yourself and your needs. Instead of continually meeting the needs of other people, think about what you need every day?
Develop close contact with other people that wake up good energy and positive thinking in you!
Awaken and Encourage a Success Experience - Take Small Steps, Have Patience for Your Posture and the Change Process, Be Realistic in Expectations, and Do Not Give Up!
