A few months ago, my wife and I parted company. We have one daughter, 4 year old Amber Melody, who's as smart as she is cute, and since she was born we have both been in complete step about parenting styles. We have done attachment parenting, with her mum effectively being with her 24/7 pretty much since birth.
But this way of doing things had a massive and devastating impact upon our relationship, and we parted company back in July this year.
As I start to move on with my life, what is now coming up is that it is becoming increasingly more likely that our long term plan of unschooling may no longer be something we can do practically.
So the other day, we started visiting primary schools in the area, and were pleased to discover that there is an appetite amongst headteachers in the area for flexi-schooling. In other words, the ability to have our little one be at a school for a couple of days a week (or even part days), and us continuing to work on an unschooling/home-education basis alongside.
And it's brought up so much for me, because it is very clear that with the very best of intentions, one of the most difficult situations to deal with now is not that my wife and I have to work out our lives separately, but that one thing which is massively important to both of us may be slipping away.
Especially when you are trying your best to set clear boundaries between each other for how we do things and organise moving forward in the best interests of our most precious thing.
So, instead of being a blog post where I give my opinion, I'd be really keen to hear from other parents who may have found themselves in similar (or different) situations after separation. It just may be that there's some great nuggets of incredible wisdom on this platform (I know there is), and I would love to get additional insights.
Thanks parenty friends.
