Why does some people fears commitment?

Have you ever experience where at first you are so head over heels with someone but later on when you feel that things are getting serious you will start becoming distant leaving other hurt and confused? Or were you the one who was left hurt and confused?

Commitment, either in life-decisions or relationships, is a scary word for some people. Someone with a genuine fear of commitment is known to have commitment-phobia or relationship anxiety, and they generally have a serious problem in staying in a relationship for the long-term. It can be very difficult to understand why a lover can be commitment-phobic.

For me, I think these are some reasons why some people is afraid of commitment with relationship:

• letting the past predict the future or scared of past hurts occurring again, and find it difficult to trust that things will be different in their current relationship
• they feel trapped
• it's still early to be bound with one person
• you're "too busy", you probably think you have no time for any new commitments
• too full of herself/himself and think that the other person don't deserve them
• afraid that one day either of them will fall out of love
• afraid he/she can't meet the other person's expectations.

But there are also things to help you overcome commitment phobia,

• Face your fear of commitment and remember that life can be more rewarding when you take risks
• Pinpoint what it is you’re really afraid of – are you scared of getting hurt again? Is it fear of rejection or perhaps fear of losing your freedom?
• Let go of any past hurt, in short move on
• Date only when you are happy with yourself and feel 100% ready
• Take your time in dating someone and make sure you've shared values and aligned ambitions

And when dating someone with commitment issues you have to be patient and understanding, help them overcome their fear. Encourage them not to over-think things or spend too much time worrying about what the future might hold.

It is only when they have overcome their fear can you enjoy a happy, healthy relationship, so give them the time and space they need.