Your anger seems to have an important part to play in this situation. And it sounds like you are doing your best to have a conscious relationship with your anger. Like it's there, reminding you of where things are disconnected and out of balance, and the unmet needs you have for communication, being seen, community, respect for you and the space... that drive the anger you feel. Those may not be the core needs you have with the chaos happening in your home. Only you know what you need, deep inside.
I'm hoping the possibility for rectification can reveal itself with time. Whether that's a time where there are opportunities to create an alternative healing environment for yourself, or a time when the communication channels open up somehow. In what way this could come about, we'll have to see. It seems like you're open to that possibility, and I value that you are.
RE: Airing of the Grievances: a Festivus Tradition