How can I make my son obey me?
Sons
The sons of the human eye and the beauty that awaits them in this life, they are the source of happiness and happiness, and the sociable in this world; they have the pleasures of his life, and they suspend his hopes, but all depends on the good education proper education, and raise them on Islam and obedience to God Almighty, If the human being is better than that, they are the adornments of this life. Allaah says ( interpretation of the meaning ) : "Money and children are the adornments of this life." [1] If a person does not succeed in the proper ways of raising children , and does not strive for it, , And a source of hardship and misery in The world , and be accountable before God Almighty for the excess of their upbringing in the Hereafter.
Over the years, education has become more difficult and more complex than it used to be because of the changes and influences that have taken place at all levels of culture, economy, media and technology. All this gives children different behavioral patterns that are a heavy burden on parents and constitute a major obstacle to the formation process. Valid. [2]
Skills of teaching the child to obey
The awareness of the family and the availability of a place of tranquility and tranquility are important factors in the adoption of proper educational methods in raising children , and make the child obedient to his parents not suddenly; but is an educational process is followed by a combination of methods, including: [3] [4]
Good role model: Good example has a great impact and effective in the same child , he mimics his parents in every small and large, and therefore they have to create high moral ethics, and avoid all bad creation, and honesty in the simplest practices, and the child sees it through acts Not many of the parents are trying to teach the child not to lie , but he is aware of the actions of his parents contrary to that, Vngers in mind what the fathers of the acts of words, and obedience , if the parents showed obedience to their fathers or older than them, The child grew up to obey them.
Keep away from the blame a lot and the continuous suffering; do not rebuke the child for every behavior issued by him, because the large reprimand and rebuke the child from the circle of care to the circle of indifference.
The prayer is one of the important things that the parents must adhere to towards their children, to be appointed by Allaah to raise their children, and to appoint their children to obey them. Praise be to God, parents to call on their children, because it is contrary to the Islamic ethics and mercy that God planted in the hearts of his slaves.
Giving the child his rights and fulfilling his wishes and needs.
Justice and equality in the treatment of children and non-discrimination between them, because discrimination generates hatred and aggression in the child, and it is difficult to find a child who feels inadequate and injustice obedient for a long time, it may be temporary obedience and soon to announce his disobedience and rebellion against those around him.
If the child wants to show obedience and commitment to what they want to show respect for him and appreciation for any work done by him, praise him and praise his actions and skills, and the child's notice that he is of high status and status at his parents, and that he is an important person important to them and that they need permanent and help him; In his value and respect for others, and therefore obeys his parents and appreciates their interest in him.
Convince the child the art of winning what you want
Persuasion is a very precise skill, which no one is capable of. It is a process of change or reinforcement of attitudes. It may be a change in an act or behavior of the child. The parents seek to deter them from doing it and to refrain from such behavior or creation (eg lying) Persuasion The child feels that his parents respect his mind and thinking, and that he has the first and last opinion in this position, and that alone is the decision, not the behavior imposed by his parents.
The persuasion, if implemented correctly, has been achieved. The goal is very similar. There is a great similarity between persuasion and manipulation. Many people find it difficult to distinguish between them. However, the difference between them is the intention of the persuasive person. When the relationship between the parents and the child reaches the point of persuasion, their needs and desires, dreams and goals, and improved the relationship between them to reach the degree of persuasion, and the parents know that persuasion art mastered the permanent practice, and that well done got what he wanted the least damage, and the simplest ways, it is the skill of communication skills excellent, who connects people El Common ground, they can convergence in the ideas, beliefs and goals. [5] [6]
References
1- ↑ Surah Al-Kahf, verse: 46.
2- ↑ Yasser Mahmoud (2009 AD), Child Education Arts and Skills (second edition), Egypt: Qatar Dew, page 3-4, part 1. Behaving.
3- ↑ Dale Carnegie (2001), The Art of Dealing with People (First Edition), Cairo: Island of Roses, pp. 57-59, Part 1.
4- ↑ Muhammad Nur bin Abdul Hafiz Suwaid (2000 AD), The Prophetic Education of the Child (third edition), Makkah: Dar Taibah, page 90 - 108, Part 1. Behaving.
5- ↑ Harry Mills (2001), The Art of Persuasion (1st edition), Riyadh - Saudi Arabia: Jarir, p.
6- ↑ Dave Lakani (2016), Persuasion of the art of winning what you want (first edition), Cairo: Hendawi Foundation for Education and Culture, page 29-30, Part 1. Behaving.
By: Ahmed Shaban
