From our very first date, I knew that my husband was "the one". It was a feeling unlike anything I'd ever experienced. I had been in relationships before, but I knew this was different. Luckily, he felt the same way! We dated for six months before we were engaged, and we married a little over a year after our first date.
Both my husband and I came from broken homes. We were determined not to fall into the behaviors of our parents, and thought it was impossible to do so. We felt we were different, we were the exception because our relationship was so special. We spent two blissful years in the honeymoon phrase, then suddenly things began to crumble. The rose-colored glasses came off and real life began. We were hit with hardship after hardship, and we took it out on each other. We constantly argued, and were not meeting each other's emotional and physical needs. We became roommates instead of partners.
The problem? Life got in the way. We were so busy dealing with everything, that we didn't put our marriage first. We didn't carve out time for one another. We'd come home and ask each other about our days, and then go straight to the TV, phones, or laptops. We became comfortable in this routine, and our relationship lost its intimacy. This went on for a few months before we realized the problem. Through two simple words, our relationship was able to heal. Those magical words? "Make time". We made it our mission to carve out time for one another. We'd leave the house, away from looming chores, responsibilities, and electronic devices. We'd go for walks, to the grocery store, out to a nice dinner. It didn't matter the place, just that we were able to get away to focus on one another.
Marriage is a gift, and a choice. Each day I wake up, it is my privilege to choose to love my husband. It is my privilege to MAKE TIME for him and for our marriage. We are now celebrating four years of marriage, and are stronger than ever. We're grateful we learned this earlier in our marriage, before the damage was irreversible. Those two words helped us rebuild our marriage, and I hope it can inspire yours.
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