If you look up the meaning of the word 'worried' or 'anxious' you can now understand there can be a feeling of the unknown, a feeling that they do not know how something will play out - How will they do in a test? Will people accept them? Will someone speak to them at a party etc.
1 in 8 children suffer from anxiety and this can cause things like missing school, not having friends, not having any interests in social gatherings and keeping themselves away from situations and people.
There is not one solution that will fit all children and you as a parent will know your child and in time figure out the best way to help them deal with their anxiety.
In your mind you think that if you tell your child that everything is going to be ok, or you are there they do not have to be afraid, it will solve the problem. This does not always work, because even though your child would love to listen and respond to your reassurance, his/her brain is not allowing it at that moment, because in his/her mind things are really bad and their emotional side of their brain has taken over.
You will have to take another approach than just reassuring your child. Try the following:
Help your child to take a few deep breaths. Reassure them that you understand why they are feeling anxious and there is nothing wrong with feeling that way. If your child is calmer you can now help him/her to find a solution to the problem that caused the anxiety in the first place. You as a parent must not feel guilty and feel that it is your fault that your child experiences anxiety if you are the one trying to help them.
Do not be that parent that makes your child feel as thought something is wrong with them. Explain to them that to worry about things are normal, and we all do it.
But the secret is working through the worrying and not letting it stop you to do the things your are suppose to do or miss out on things that you can enjoy.
Sometimes we just have to except that we will worry about certain things and understand that we cannot always control a situation or do something about it and just accept the outcome.
Some children will be paralysed by worrying or anxiety and will not be able to carry on with daily tasks. It is important that your child understand that you cannot spend your whole life worrying.
You can create a special time during the day for 10-15 minutes in which your child can write down all their fears and anxieties and then you can discuss it afterwards and try and find some solutions for the problems.
Help your child to stop concentrating on the negative scenarios of "what if". We cannot foresee the future but thinking about every single thing that can go wrong will make anybody anxious. Rather help your child to think "what is". What is the reality? What is it I would like to do? What is it I like about doing a specific activity?
Stop avoiding all situations that causes your child anxiety. Help them to face their fears one step at a time and see for themselves that things will work out and if something does not work the way they thought it would, they can deal with it.
Avoiding all situations is not going to help your child to grow stronger and more self-assured and positive so that they can face their problems.
Work out a step by step plan in which your child will be able to deal with anxiety. Different steps will work for different children
