Words you say when you’re angry are exactly like arrows launched from your bow, if they shall hit someone, the famage cant be undone, at best it’ll take time to heal.
Now the advices we keep hear, Dont hold on to your anger? Dont surrender to your rage? Suppress it...those solutions could be valid momentarily. But on the long run...and if they were done consistently...one will most likely get hypertension, diabetes, cardiovascular issues.
Once i read in quran that dealing with anger shall be done over three steps:
1- suppress your anger
2- forgive whoever done wrong to you
3- do good to those who did wrong to you
It is very precise advice, that is only suppressing anger will not feel just for you, but when you give it a second thought, and look at the one who did wrong to you with an eye of mercy, you forgive oen who did wrong to you, you will immedialely calm down blocking all the need to pour your rage outside of you towards others...now once you do good to one who did wrong to you, oxytocin will surge through your blood stream... which will shift you from the negative emotional state a positive one, it actually undo what stress hormones do to the body...only then you shall a closure, suppressing anger is good -momentarily- yet it wont bring you to a closure, not before you do the next two steps you’ll bring peace back to your land.
Remember; not even one culture praised sureendering yo anger and rage
