I can all things in Christ that strengthens me.
Philippians 4.13
You are not alone in choosing too much, but because you chose that. There is no justification that comes from the attitudes of third parties, but from a personal position.
Past pains or pains? Maybe, but they are things that affect the thought of trying again. It is not legal to invest in someone if there are uncertainties in your heart or that you are still in the process of self-knowledge. Trying to do well in these cases can become a waste of time, and at some point that hurts. There may be reciprocity, but still risky, because there is a presence of luggage from the past.
Being alone is not a process of bitterness or deprivation of life, but of strengthening and self-knowledge. It is not legal to live new adventures with luggage that still weighs or that still affect your courage to walk.
Look only for you: you have come here in the midst of so many struggles, then it is not time to stop, but to strengthen. Walking in that environment is complex, but there is a God who heals, liberates, strengthens and understands.
The same God who writes his story with his hands is the One who directs you to understand your staff, extends your hand and heals your wounds. Take your pains and load past luggage, strengthen your character and prepare you for the next company.
Then do not worry if they tell you "whoever chooses ends up being chosen". This time of "Stand by" is about self-knowledge, an attitude that avoids hurting other hearts with personal uncertainties.
Be strong, courageous and do not give up on yourself! If he is single by choice, it is because he values his person through the action of God. It's not because you choose too much, it never was, and never will be. Our life is too valuable to be wasted in pieces. He gives himself entirely to Christ and strengthens his boat to navigate in reciprocal waters. - be strong in the Lord and in the power of his strength. Ephesians 6.10
