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Funny how we think the highest form of abuse is mutilation or physical abuse leaving behind the gravity of the menace called "Emotional abuse". I used to have a popular belief that "Mess with my body but don't you dare mess with my head or my heart". But how disappointing that it is the main focus for abuse. People leave the body and then take up messing with their heart and heads.
WHAT IS EMOTIONAL ABUSE?
This is a form of gradually getting into the head of an individual deceptively, twisting and turning till the victim slowly loses knowledge of self worth, security and trust in themselves and ultimately live in the shadow of the abuser. Contrary to what you might think, most of the time the abusee and the abuser are not even aware of the effect or the attack. It becomes a part of the game.
It is of more harm than physical abuse that it slowly decreases one's self worth and it eats so deep into the depth of your essentiality and create a long-lasting perhaps everlasting psychological effect on the victim that might take a lot of therapy and classes to fix.
An Emotional abuser is a bully and a person that lacks respect for his victim hence his ability to a toy with their fragility. He treats them like an object rather than a person. He takes them like a possession and flings them whatever ways he wants answering to nobody else but himself.
The Sad thing about a victim of emotional abuse is the ability to build a wall of defence and denial, thereby telling themselves that they are just been looked out for rather than abused. They become so dependent that they feel so lucky as to the fact that they have a fall back person. How Depressing!
The most viable scenario for emotional abuse is " A man and a woman in a relationship".
Do me the honour of sharing with you about 20 affirmations that you might actually be the one I am talking about.
You are in a relationship that is more of Domination and Submission rather than Love. He is more concerned about how you respect him and how you are extremely dependent and submissive to him than how much he loves you.
You are in a relationship and your Opinion really doesn't count for a cent, you can't make decisions for both the relationship or even yourself. You are perceived as a retard hence he makes all the decisions while you sit and nod like a dog waiting for bones.No offense!
You are in a relationship and you cry more than you laugh. You are always more hurt than you are happy, you only put on the perfect face in the public but underneath you are a pile of rubbles. You are hurt but you would rather stay hurt than stay single because according to you, no man can do what he has done for you. He is such an angel.
You are in a relationship and your cellphone is his cellphone but his cellphone is his cellphone. Your calls are screened by him and any suspicious call is subject to interrogation from him because you answer to his court. Like who the heck are you to have privacy, you don't deserve it.
Your money is his money and his money is his money. He has the right to your finances even without your permission and he would make no apologies for it. The worse type is when you don't even have access to your funds or how he is spending it. He is like your manager except he is not accountable to you.
For the sake of length, I would stop here to continue on another post and I hope you check back for the continuation of Emotional abuse.
Your friend,
