You're angry. Rightly so. Stew a bit, then get a grip and go after what you want. Seems to me you have climbed a lot of mountains in your life, most of them without anyone's help. Now you do have someone. Go to England, with your wife😇. England is your home (you feel that way). Don't let a bunch of bureaucrats stand in your way. You've overcome bigger obstacles than this.

I'm betting on you, not the stuffy bureaucrats.