I am a student of languages, so I respect your quite competent use of English.

As for being a feminist: to me that simply means have equal opportunity. I ask no notice of my gender. Just give me a chance, an equal chance to succeed and to engage in society. That's it. I don't know what others mean by feminism. I just want my fair shot.

My father wasn't a disappointment. He was a disaster :)) He didn't just neglect his family and cause great harm. He was a violent bully. That part of his character I didn't address here. He maintained his authority through physical, emotional and financial coercion. What he taught me, through his actions, was that we are all responsible for ourselves and we must never give away the ability to take care of ourselves.

I am very, very happy that you have a good father. I had good uncles, and good grandfathers. Some men are very good. And some are very bad.

I appreciate your feedback.