I love the passage from 365 Tao. I do see myself in that, and I don't. Owning stuff has never been an issue with me. I don't become attached to things, or care about them much, unless they remind me of a person (like my mother) who is gone. However, I am very attached to those I love. Probably more than most people. I don't see myself so much as a single unit but as part of my family.
As for Leary's recommendation to reach out and have a conversation: I do that compulsively. I strike up a conversation with just about anyone. Sometimes that is a disquieting experience.
By the way, I'm enjoying your book. It is relatable. So much of what you write about has resonance with me. I see you on a path, well along in life, coming to realizations. There is commons sense, and yet profound insight in some of them. I read them before I go to sleep--not every night, but most nights.
That book makes a good bedside companion. Actually, as I write these words I think that will definitely be in my review.
RE: Finding Each Other Again