To be fair, he also said "if you are marrying a man that cannot handle the finances then you should not marry that man".

My father was a lawyer. He was smart. People liked him. They hired him and trusted him. He certainly seemed to be someone who could handle the finances. Nobody has a crystal ball. Nobody knows what someone will be in five years, ten years, twenty years. That's quite a gamble, that a man will be dependable, will not falter.

If a woman wants to take that, fine. One life ruined. Don't gamble with the children.

that sort of thing is handled has to be agreed to up front or there will be nothing but problems in the marriage

What is an agreement worth? Even if intentions are sincere, people change. Life is hard. Imagining supporting six children is one thing. Actually going to work every day, sacrificing your good time, all your money for the care of those children. That's another thing. Some men have it in them. My mother had it in her. My father did not. He liked his wine. He liked his women. His liked his freedom. An agreement means nothing to a person with weak character. There is no way to tell if a person's character will hold up over time.

I say to woman, protect yourself. Protect your children. Don't believe promises.