Getting to know people should be the case for everyone and not stereotyping people. I understand that psychologist might have the ability to predict people or situations but I'm very sure that they also can't even sound too certain or be judgemental based on their perceptions.
I've heard people say career women can't keep a home, they don't have time to create or have a family, they're too ambitious and won't have time for the husband.
The question is, are all career women like that? But the fact that you've come across one or two that are like that doesn't mean every career women are like that and so because she told you she loves to further in her career you decided to call it a quit or consider a divorce. No! That's wrong
From another angle, you would see the male gender criticizing or looking at every single woman who rides the latest car, launches a great business place or builds a well suitable and mouthwatering house as a prostitute because they believe that no lady can actually achieve it that big on their own without the involvement of a sugardaddy. Where did that came from? Who said a lady can't achieve it big if they dream it big and work hard towards it?
Even choosing to be an actor as a female is a crime because you will be seen as a prostitute.
My success can't be attributed to me all because I'm a woman. I can't achieve it big all alone because I'm a woman which shouldn't be so.
Marriages are being determined by tribe or the place where the partners comes from. If the guy is from so so family, then she can't marry him because this and that is what they do or happens to them. I'm not saying this may not be partially true and doing a background check before giving one's daughter or sister's hand in marriage but make it a background check on the person she's actually marrying and not concluding his fate and life because of the others who came from the same family that you knew to be bad. Most would-be beautiful couples have been separated with this which is unfair.
The fact that I'm a Nigerian, does not mean I would have a corruptive traits in me.
The fact that I'm from a Yoruba tribe doesn't make me a sorcerer or diabolical person.
I was at a store today, the owner of the store (An Igbo woman) and her customer were talking about money issues for what he ordered to purchase which he wants to buy on credit(not paying or paying half and sort the rest later) and the woman refused. The man was now referring to an Alhaja (An Islamic woman who had traveled to Hajj) that if it was her shop he went to for unpaid goods, she wouldn't complain and would allow him take the goods away. The woman then replied that Alhaja does that because if Alhaja doesn't see her money, she will do juju to collect her money and I was like how??? Then she replied in pidgin "she be Yoruba now". I was surprised because based on what I just heard from this Igbo woman, it means for every Yoruba person she sees, either they're good people or not, they're diabolic and should not be relied on as someone good which is not true.
Likewise the same way some Yoruba people had seen Igbo people to be ritualist as long as they're successful.
The worst of it but funny part of it is that in this part of the Southwest that I currently or Southwest generally, if you hear them call a place Sabo, then it means that only or majorly Hausa people dominate there.
Above all, we should all embrace exposure and be open-minded to ask questions when we feel confused about someone, somewhere, or something people do, instead of assuming and categorizing them already or subjecting them to a particular type of stereotype.
This is my contribution to the prompt of the 174th week of Hive Learners community and I'll be dropping my 🖊️ right here.
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