Whenever we meet someone new, we in the depth of our heart count on the fact that this will be the person we have been looking for. The one
BUT unfortunately ... In real life, most of our meetings end in parting, and our expectations not being met.
By what criteria should you choose a partner in life and how to understand that this is the person,
with whom you want to share the best of what will happen to you?
Lets begin with the fact that family psychologists and psychotherapists, proffessors and so called love experts shout out the general criteria that should be looked at when choosing a life partner.
The smell of the partner's body should induce desire, not repel. On physical level this was proven to be true by many studies.
How compatible are you as sexual partners - do you get pleasure from sex?
Growth and age in this case do not matter. (as long as we stay within the laws obviously)
Pay attention to the manners, education and religious views of your chosen one - how comfortable you feel inside his social circle (family, friends)?
By the way, this is one of the important points, because an adult person is able to expand the range of interests, but not to change his views on life and culture in a coordinated way!
For example, Muslim men allow themselves to meet with Christians. But in 99% of cases they never marry, because they can be expelled from their families for this.
In addition, you must understand that each of us has certain criteria when choosing a man or a woman.
One should try to understand as clear as possible: which traits in the person of the opposite sex(or same for that matter) attract, and which ones repel you most?
To do this, you can perform the exercise: write on a sheet of paper, what qualities should be allocated to your chosen one and what you do not exactly accept. The list must be made up according to four main criteria:
1 - appearance
2 - personal traits
3 - attitude to the world, to people, to oneself
4 - Lifestyle
Try not to hurry and as detailed as possible to paint each of the four criteria.
After you have made the list - will you estimate how attractive you are to such a person? What is it worth to work on?
If you wish to meet a cheerful and positive girl, then your attitude to life should be positive, and a sense of humor is appropriate.
If a girl wants a man to be active, active and versatile, then for her part she should offer him the same.
Remember that it is impossible to find a complete match in the criteria! Therefore, in every new person, try to pay attention to his personal qualities and characteristics.
And maybe it is they who have interested you the most!
There are no complete correspondences, but opposites in serious relationships are not attracted. All inconsistencies in the criteria described by you (especially if they are in the "not acceptable" section) sooner or later turn into partner's shortcomings. This directly affects the quality of your relationship.
By the way, for you it may be interesting that some people choose a partner in life similar to their parent (father / mother) - you do not need to be afraid of this, especially if your parents are a wonderful example of a happy family life.
In addition, both men and women are looking for the answer to the question:
how to understand that this is the person with whom you can link your destiny?
Analyzing his/her personal experience and the opinions of experts in the field of family psychology, there are still a number of points that make it clear to us that this is the person we were looking for.
From my heart I wish you will find your Best soulmate and end up being together to the last days, I know thats very rare these days, but it's possible and if you choose the right person you will end up having a happy life!
