Today I will write a little bit about self-confidence. Many people think, that you can learn to be confident. Nowadays new professions, like coach, became very popular. These people want to convince you, that making some small exercises every day, will provide you to be confident. They call it ‘personal development tools’. You know, If it would be so easy, everyone would do it and have good results. The truth is, that it just don’t work.
You can talk to yourself in front of the mirror, practicing your presentation before some interview, but It will not give you confidence. Only it can help you to relief your tension.
Recently I read a book, and there was nice quotation:
‘CONFIDENCE IS BORN FROM MISTAKES. The more mistakes you make , the more aware you are of what not to do.’
It gave me much too think. I saw a group of very young people, still playing with their life, but also very uncertain about where it should go. They can’t know what they want yet. I saw also a group of older people, who started to have some ideas about this what they want. And finally I saw much older, adult people, who seemed to be very confident. Why I saw such a picture? Probably, because this people showed me some stages of becoming confident. The more experience you have in life, the more confident you became.
Lets say you want to buy a suit. Until you try it on, you won’t know which is the best for you. You can like one, but maybe after trying on, you will realize that it is not comfortable, or just don’t fit you.
Uncertainty is caused by ignorance. Things, that we don’t know, cause a fear. The conclusion is that the more we know, the more we experience, the less uncertain we are. If you want to become confident, defeat your fear and start to experience as much as possible.
