In our day to day life, we tend to meet people who might have different opinions, behavior and character which might become an issue or argument when relating with one another. The main point is how we manage our differences and live peacefully with one another.
Being the first born I have learnt alot, which includes how to control my emotions when it comes to argument. Many times my younger ones do provoke me a lot which I have learnt to stay calm when relating with them. Sometimes it might look as if I'm a fool but it's rather a peaceful way of living with each other peacefully.
I remember while growing up there are countless of times when my younger ones will say hurtful word at me, and most times I do spoke harshly at them but I realized those words don't change them, infact they become more disrespectful. But as I grow older, I learnt to be patient instead of shouting or saying harsh words at them, I rather stay calm and keep quiet, which i realize this act of mine do make them realize their wrongs and they do end up apologizing for their wrongs.
During my NYSC, I had a roommate who argues alot and as well has anger issues. She gets angry at anything. She always claim to be smart and that no one could win her in any argument. When I noticed the kind of person she is, I decided to set boundaries just to prevent me from having an argument with her. she always wanted us to cook together but I do stylishly avoid it just because I understand her personality. She has cooked with other corpers in the lodge before which ended up becoming a big argument. It's either she fight them because she was not allowed to share the food or have an argument with them because the food was not delicious.
Through our NYSC, we cooked differently because I don't want to start what I won't be able to stop easily. She always feel she is always right while others are wrong. Since I already discovered her kind of personality. I do try all possible best to stay calm and never to exchange words with her whenever she raises any form of argument. Once I noticed I'm getting angry with her word or actions, I try all best to step out of the room just to cool my head off. This act of mine has really helped me to control my emotions even when I'm angry. I tried not to change her personality because that will be a difficult task, I rather accepted her based on her personality just to prevent any form of argument. Although at times I do feel cheated but I prefer living peacefully rather than getting into a hot argument with her.
Staying calm and not acting irrationally has really been of help to me. Even when I got married, whenever my husband do things that I don't like, I have learnt not to raise my voice at my husband. Two wrongs can't make a right. Shouting and boiling with anger will make matter worst. I rather communicate with him in a calm tone and this has really helped us in resolving issues and argument peacefully.
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