You will never get to know your partner perfectly. In fact, that's one of the beautiful things about being in a relationship: Your partner is constantly surprising you. There are some basic things you probably should know before establishing a life with someone. These include
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It's best to address the topic of parenthood sooner than later, so no one winds up resentful — or heartbroken — years down the line.
If you or your partner are (understandably) worried that having kids will change your relationship for the worse, you should arm yourself with knowledge about what helps parents maintain intimacy.
AvieLikesThis writes, "There are those who believe looking at pornography or going to strip clubs is cheating. Bottom line is, everyone has different limits. Establish the boundaries, before getting into a marriage." As INSIDER's Kristin Salaky reports, "emotional affairs" are becoming increasingly common — and increasingly tricky to define. And if you're suspicious that your partner's having an emotional affair, take note of any differences in their sexual interest and pay attention to your gut feeling.
Don't freak out if your partner says they're open to the possibility of divorce — or if you realise you feel that way. Susan Pease Gadoua, co-author of The New I Do, previously told Business Insider, "When people see divorce as never an option, it can create some unhealthy dynamics.
"Some people feel the expectations are different when you're married than when you're dating, and others feel that they are the same," says evelynrae. "It's important to be on the same page about expectations for every stage of a relationship."
Writing for the BBC, psychologist Christian Jarrett cites several studies suggesting that people's personalities tend to change after they tie the knot. For example, one 2017 Dutch study found that partners' levels of self-control and forgiveness increased over the first four years of marriage.
Still, it's important to discuss how you'll change and grow together if you're planning to get married, as well as what you're afraid of and excited about.
