I've been told my requirements before I consider someone as a potential date is too high. I'm convinced I'm just gaslighted to believe I got it wrong. The requirements include a stable job, insurance, manageable debt, and no existing problems with the law (history is negotiable). The familial disease screening is optional but true love wins. I asked women I know if they were ok to date a guy with crippling debt, and unemployed, you probably guess the answer by now. So I'm going to be a jerk if I required the same thing from a potential partner.