How to Give a Sensual Massage
Learning to give a good sensual massage can put a spark into your relationship and help to spice up your love life. It's a great gift that you can give to your partner, and a great way to build trust and intimacy together. If you want to give better massages, you can learn to prepare your body and your space, how to communicate effectively, and some tips and techniques for hitting all the right spots.
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1 Part
Preparing for a Massage
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Clean and prepare yourself. To make the experience as erotic as could be expected under the circumstances, both of you should feel good, clean, and new. Bathe and prepare yourself, giving careful consideration to your hands and fingernails. Your fingers ought to be spotless and cut before you give an exotic back rub.
In case you're giving your accomplice a back rub, consider washing together to start the closeness. Washing or showering in the meantime can be an extraordinary approach to kick the back rub time off.
It can likewise be enjoyable to begin with a back rub and after that, after things get slick, to jump in the tub subsequently and wipe off some of that oil.
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Influence the back rub to space agreeable and welcoming. Regardless of whether you're rubbing somebody on an expert back rub table or on a bed or other surface, it's critical to make the individual getting the back rub as agreeable as could be allowed. Ensure the room is sufficiently warm to be stripped in, if garments are falling off, and ensure the sheets are perfect and new. Light a few candles and incense to influence the space to feel uncommon.
It's occasionally regular to utilize hot stones, blindfolds, moving pins, and an assortment of different actualizes in the back rub, however at times it's additionally best to keep it as basic as could be expected under the circumstances. You don't have to set up an intricate show of devices to make the back rub sexy and pleasant for your accomplice.
Some delicate music can be an appreciated expansion to an arousing rub, or a cliché and awkward error. Ask your accomplice what they would incline toward, and maintain a strategic distance from the Barry White buzzwords.
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Utilize a fitting assortment of back rub oil. While it's conceivable to give a mostly average back rub with no oil, your accomplice will be passing up a major opportunity for sure. It's substantially more agreeable and exotic to utilize a characteristic back rub oil to give a back rub.
Business rub oils are frequently scented in an assortment of aromas, which can offer a serious erotic affair for a back rub. A few people may incline toward unscented oils, yet experiment with a couple to perceive what works best.
You don't need to purchase oil particularly made for knead. While it might sound strange, cooking oils like olive, coconut, or cocoa margarine can make superb back rub oils. Numerous masseurs lean toward utilizing an essential cooking oil on the skin.
You can likewise influence your own particular back rub to oil by submerging lavender, calendula, rosemary, or other fragrant herbs or fundamental oils in a characteristic oil yourself. You can spare cash by stirring up bunches of your own and sparing it in containers.
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Converse with your accomplice first. The most imperative piece of an erotic back rub has nothing to do with where to put your hands. A back rub won't be sexy in the event that it doesn't include trust and passionate closeness. Both earlier and amid the back rub, it's critical to talk and tune in.
When you're rubbing, make inquiries like, "Is that too firm?" or "Does that vibe great?" when you move to another zone of the body. Tune in and modify your back rub appropriately.
It's likewise great to abstain from transforming the back rub into a meeting. Utilize your judgment and tune in to the sounds your accomplice makes. Groans of delight are great signs, so continue doing what you're doing.
2 Part
Giving the Massage
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Warm the oil with your hands. Take a liberal bit of oil into your hands and rub it in to warm it up, at that point tenderly spread the oil onto the piece of your accomplice that you're kneading. It's by and large run of the mill to begin with the back and shoulders.[1]
Never pour oil straightforwardly onto the back of your accomplice if it's frosty. This can be startling and awkward, and it can influence your accomplice to feel tense. Warm the oil up yourself and intermittently include more, if the skin begins to dry out, or the oil gets worked in.
In the event that you need to warm back rub oil, do as such just delicately, and dependably test it all alone skin before applying it straightforwardly onto your accomplice.
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Use firm and even pressure with the palms of your hands. Massage techniques can vary widely, but there's no big secret to making your partner feel good. Use and firm, but gentle touch, rubbing long strokes along your partners muscles. Use the base of your palm to do the bulk of the pushing, and use other parts of your hand to get at the sensitive spots.
Remember that it's important to massage along muscles, not pushing on bones. It doesn't really feel good to push hard onto the point of someone's elbow, but it does feel good to massage the inside of the forearm.
Try an experiment if you've never given a massage before, rubbing your own shoulders and seeing where it feels good. Find these same spots on your partner, and remember how firmly you touched your own shoulder. It should translate.
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Use your thumbs for areas of tension. In general, you want to start the massage by using long, even strokes, then go back to problematic or sore spots to work more with your thumbs. If you find a spot that feels very good to your partner, or that your partner wants you to work harder, switch to your thumbs for extra support and pressure.
Always be gentle, rubbing your thumbs in circular motions along the back of your partner's calves, just above the buttocks, and the lower back area.
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Focus on neglected areas of the body. Everyone knows that it feels good to touch genitals and other erogenous zones. But diving straight to these areas can make for a somewhat crude or hurried massage.[2] Take your time and, as long as your partner is comfortable (communicate!), explore the neglected areas of the body for the most sensual and careful massage you can give. Don't forget about:
The wrists
The arch of the foot
The fingers and palms
The back of the neck
The ears
The back of the knees
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Use other parts of your body. Forearms, elbows, knuckles, and even your oiled chest and torso can be effective ways of massaging away tension and creating intimate touches with your partner. As long as your partner is ok with full-body contact as part of the massage, take advantage of all your body has to offer to make your partner feel good.
It's also sometimes popular to use other objects to help in the massage process. Rolling pins, or even the massage oil bottle itself, can be used to roll across sore muscles and ease tension, when used properly. This can be somewhat less sensual (not to mention cold) than your own hands, though, so keep that in mind and keep it simple.
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Take your time. A massage isn't a quick prologue to sex. Let the massage linger on for a while, spending your time treating your partner to these sensual touches for their own sake, because they feel good, not because they might lead to more.
It's also good to avoid distractions during a sensual massage. A massage is a lot less sensual if you're not watching Sportscenter at the same time. Switch off the TV and devote your attention to your partner's body.
3 Part
Hitting the Right Spots
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Start with the shoulders and the back of the neck. One of the best areas to start is always the shoulders and the neck, working slowly and gently with your thumbs down the side of the spine on the back of the neck. Work down the back of the neck in little circles, paying close attention to your partner's response.
The spot where your neck meets your shoulder is another great area to hit, paying particular attention to the point at which the shoulder blade starts. Always work along the bone, not running across it.
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Work both sides of the spine. As you work your hands down the back, the muscle that runs along both sides of the spine feels excellent to massage slowly. Use your thumbs in small little circles and long strokes, using even pressure. Don't pressure the spine directly, but along both sides. It'll feel great.
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Massage the back of the legs. Paying close attention to the calves, massaging both big muscles in the back of the leg separately. This can be the difference between a good massage and a great one. Work your thumbs up and along both tendons in the back of the thigh, as well, to work the parts that can get sore.
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Don't forget the feet. Running a thumb along the arch of the foot can feel amazing. Work each toe individually, using the oil liberally, and use both thumbs in small circles along the ball of the foot. It's good to use firm pressure on the foot, or it can feel somewhat tickly.
If you always give your massages from the heat to the toe, vary it up sometimes. Start with the feet and work your way up. Slowly.[3]
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Do the slow slip-n-slide. Once you've worked your way down your partner's body and added a lot of oil, do some long, full-body strokes with the palms of your hands, going extremely slowly and revising all the spots you've just massaged. This can be a very nice way to end the massage. It can also feel good to use your forearm, or your knuckles, to vary the sensation from the last time those areas were massaged.
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Ask your partner for guidance. Always defer to what feels good for your partner. If you want to do the front of the body next, or other areas more specifically, talk about it and decide together. Good communication is the most important part of the massage.
Giving a massage isn't code for "consenting to sex." Never touch your partner anywhere intimate without discussing it first.
