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From childhood until today, we meet countless people. As we grow older, our circle of friends dwindles. At some point, we're left with only a select few to talk to. During school, we meet many people and get to know them over time, so naturally, we have more friends. Almost all the students in our class are our friends, and some from higher and lower grades are also our friends. Children also make many friends on the school bus they ride, often from different grades. As we age, and as we move from school to college, this number of friends dwindles. When we go to college, we keep in touch with a few of our school friends, and most of them stop interacting with each other because some are in different places, others are in different places, and meetings, or anything else, are not. We only stay in touch through social media. Some people maintain proper communication with all their friends and stay in touch with everyone. Now, the question is, do I have to stop talking to some people? We cut them off from our lives by cutting them off. To this question, I'd like to say that doing so is wrong, because if you're forming any kind of relationship with someone, it's your responsibility to maintain it. Nowadays, I see some people initially show great interest in talking to you, even talking nicely for a few days. But then, when they realize that this person isn't useful to them or won't be theirs, they start maintaining distance, and at some point, they remove them from their lives. This is absolutely wrong. But sometimes, situations arise where we, despite our best efforts, are forced to cut that person out of our lives.
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I'd like to share an experience where I had to stop talking to a friend. It happened during my college days. At that time, I had a friend from another city. Initially, we used to hang out together, sit together in college, and even hang out together after college. We graduated from college at the same time, and even after that, we would still communicate on the phone.
After a while, our conversations became less frequent, but they still happened once or twice a month. This continued for about a year. Then, one day, he suddenly called and said he had a health emergency and needed 5,000 Indian rupees. He was a friend, so I sent him the money. Then, I called him again to ask how he was doing, and he said he was fine. Then, I didn't hear from him for about two months. I called him face-to-face, but he didn't answer. Then, after about three months, I called him again, but he didn't answer again. A few days later, he called me again, asking for 3,000 Indian rupees. He said he had a health emergency and couldn't pay right now. He was in dire straits, and I would repay him in a few months. I was a little suspicious, but I sent the money because I thought he was my friend, so I should help him. Then, some time later, I called him again to ask about his well-being, but he had stopped answering. I was surprised because he had never behaved like this before. We had a mutual friend, so I spoke to him, and he told me that he had taken money from many other people in a similar way and wasn't answering my phone. My initial suspicion began to turn into certainty. After a while, he called me again, asking for the money, but this time I understood he was a bit suspicious and shouldn't send it. I made some excuses and told him that it wasn't there yet, and it would come in a week or two. Then, a week later, he called again, asking for the money, and I said, "I'll check in a few days and let you know." Then, two weeks later, he called again, and I told him that he didn't have the money right now, and that he needed some money and could he return the money he'd borrowed earlier. He then started making excuses, saying he was stuck in an emergency, and other similar things to try to fool me into thinking he was an emotional fool, but I knew he had changed. I said, "Okay, I'll see in a few days if I can arrange the money." I was convinced I wouldn't pay him and wouldn't contact him again. I never called him again after that day, but he called several times, probably asking for money, so I didn't pick up. After a few months, I removed him from my friends list and never contacted him again.
Many times you have to take some money out of compulsion which may disappoint you a bit but when you feel that the other person is taking advantage of you, then no matter how close a friend he is, it is better to remove him from your life in time.
Something similar happened to me with a friend and then I was forced to ghost him because I had no other option.
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