The topic of discussion today reminded me of a toxic experience I witnessed with people in a marriage and not even in a relationship. They were a couple. The victim happened to be my cousin. Most times, you can never judge a human by their looks or appearance. Humans are way crazy beyond looks. The saying, "Never judge a book by its cover," might be right after all.
My cousin got married to this guy. He appears to be calm and responsible in the way he talks. You will even think an angel has fallen from above. He is so calm in his speech, and whenever he puts out a smile, you will be left with no choice but to embrace him.
I have jammed him in the mosque several times which shows how religious he might appear to be. My cousin would gist with us about her experience with having to prepare meals for fasting and also the one he would use to break his fast. He fasts every Monday and Thursday. I hope I can have the strength to do a little of what it does when it comes to religious activities.
They had their child and then everyone thought everything was fine, without knowing a lot had been going underground. We never knew my cousin was just putting out a happy face but a pained and disheartened soul. She was just trying to be fine all this while. I wonder why she didn’t speak up.
One day their child was with his grandma, my aunt. Then while the child was playing with the other children he playfully tried to demonstrate how his father handled his mother in the room. He told them that his dad always finds joy in beating his mum and then both himself, his mum would be there pleading on their knees while he keeps talking trash on them.
The other children laughed. But my aunt was there and she listened. She kept her cool till the mother came around to confirm. She did confirm but her daughter denied all that the kid said and claimed he was just so childish with his words.
That day she got another beating again then the son came to repeat. Then my aunt knew it wasn’t a joke matter anymore. She called the husband to ask some questions. He denied it and asked to call his wife but she also denied what the kid said.
At some point, the beating got so obvious that she couldn’t take it anymore. She reported to her mum and they took the case to the community chief but when they were asked for divorce they both denied it again and said they wanted each other.,
This is a toxic relationship! I had to make it clearer. My aunt took the case to the court and that was when the toxic marriage got a divorce. She is single today but she has the peace of mind she wanted with her son. And I believe that she will get someone better with time.
Toxic relationships are not worth it. There should have been some red light from the early stage but most times we tend to ignore them claiming to be blinded by love and the thoughts of change. But that’s not the way it is. Characters can’t be hidden for long. With time it would erupt like smoke. I guess what all toxic relationships deserve is a bond break before it gets worse.
This is my response to the HIVE LEARNERS weekly prompt in hive learners community for the Week 147 Edition 1 and the topic to be discussed is EVEN WHEN TOXIC
