…continued… from part 1, part 2 and part 3
As I have been saying, there are so many weird reasons that people give all because they want to get married. I was speaking with this lady recently and I could sense from her words that marriage is a big goal for her while she is not doing anything to develop herself. It is quite sad, really. She didn’t just have marriage as a goal, she also has this weird ideology about how a marriage should be.
The parents must have imbibed into her that marriage is a goal and I think she understands her parent very well because she complained that they are mainly for the material things. The parents would gladly let her go to the ‘highest bidder’ even if she is not happy with the person. Since she knows this, I think she should have worked on being a better person than trying to follow the path that leads to unhappiness.
She said she wants to leave her house and this is why she is pushing marriage at all cost. I found it unfair on the person she might want to get married to. You said you love the person you want to get married to but yes, you threatened the guy with a break-up and running to the hands of others if he doesn’t come quickly to come and do the marriage rites. How is that love, please? It is crystal clear that all she wants to do is to get out of that house and marriage is a getaway card for her, and that is a very terrible way to view marriage.
You are currently unemployed and you have no definite plans for your own life, so how do you intend to cope with the rigour and demands of marriage? Sometimes we feel we can cope with it until we are actually faced by it and they crumble underneath when we are unprepared for it. Marriage is never a getaway platform from parents’ influence. Maturity is a getaway card for that because when you display some level of maturity and self-improvements, your parents would have no choice than to respect your choices and listen to you.
…to be continued…
Thank you for your time.
My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.
