Whenever ego comes in the way of any relationship then it does a lot of harm to the relationship. Sometimes there are misunderstandings in a relationship or there are differences as well and we may decide to give that relationship some space and time to allow the heavy energies to settle down, but then sometimes we create some much time gap and distance that getting back to each other becomes awkward, and most of the time the ego plays a big role as to who will be the first to approach, or say sorry.
A friend of mine is married for 10 years now and has developed major differences with his spouse, it is not that they do not love each other, but over a period of time some external factors have also impacted their relationship. He comes to me for healing and help. I always tell him that the healing is not really going to help him unless he really decides by himself that he wants to make this relationship work. Not only just work but for both of them to stay happy. The thing is that when differences start occurring in a relationship, we forget to say things like I Love you, I am Sorry, We forget to hug and kiss our partners. We just sit with the grudge towards each other and expect that the opposite person will make the first move or the opposite person will take charge of changing the situation.
Our ego does not allow us to bow down. This is wrong. I always tell people no matter whatever and however bad the situation is but if we decide that we want to improve it and lovingly if we start working towards it then the situation will get better. A hug, A kiss, saying I Love you makes us win most part of the battle. But if we keep being stuck in the matter and keep digging graves of who did what and keep finding faults then we will never be able to mend the relationship. This friend keeps asking me, how to do it. I sometimes fall short of words to such questions. I cannot teach someone to express Love for their partner, if I have to do that than their feeling is not genuine, they are just doing it because they feel that possibly by doing that the situation will improve, but any superficial emotion does not mend the relationship because after sometime again you will end up in the same chaos.
One has to clear their heart and mind to make things better with their partner. We live just 70 to 80 years of life, in that we carry so much of baggage on our shoulders, baggage of ego, worries, jealousy, hatred. If we just decide to drop off all that extra baggage life will become very simple and fun loving. We will be happy all the time, we will make others also happy around us. Life is a precious gift to us and our relationships are blessings, we need to take good care of them, nurture them and not sit with our ego on them, only then will we be able to have happy relationships. If the opposite person is constantly toxic, then the best is to cut chords with them completely.
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