If a rose smells better than cabbage, It doesn't mean the rose can make a better stew. Don't try to compare yourself too much to others my friend. You also have your own strength, search it and build on it. You may make better stew than they think. Smile always.
Social comparison starts at a very early age. Children discover very quickly that not everyone lives the same life or has the same opportunity as them. They see how some friends have more toys or better clothes, or live in nicer houses. As these children grow older and become teenagers, the comparing doesn’t stop. It often intensifies and turns into negative self-talk. Thoughts like “I’m not good enough,” “I can’t do anything right,” or “I’ll never make it” slowly start creeping into their minds. This kind of gloomy thinking causes them to develop anxiety and depression-like impulses, which may continue well into their adulthood years.
The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel (Steven Furtick).
If you’re guilty of often comparing yourself to others, here’s why you need to stop right now.
Comparison is the thief of joy
I’m sure you’ve heard this saying a million times, but it’s very important to reiterate it. Comparing yourself to others only makes your life difficult and brings you misery and pain. Instead, try using others as motivation to work harder and do better.
Comparison will stall your progress
If you spend your days comparing yourself to other people’s achievements, you’ll never get anything accomplished. You must invest all your energy into pursuing your own dreams and goals. Don’t waste your precious time on those of others.
You can’t physically change who you are. You are you. You’ll always be you. You’ll never be anyone else. And although it might be hard to believe for some of us, this is actually a good thing.
To explain why, here’s my favorite quote from author Jen Sincero:
There will never be anyone exactly like you. You were given special gifts and talents to share with the world, and even though everybody has special gifts and talents, nobody will use theirs quite the same way you do. – Jen Sincero