Basically, I’m confused by the conflicting teachings I hear in this regard. Is there really such a thing as a destined partner? Let me put it this way; Are soul mates real?
The other day we had a 3-day program in church and it was centered on finding the ideal partner. Considering the fact that I’ve been thinking a lot about taking this love thing seriously again, I made sure not to miss the program. In fact, I made sure to clear off every other agenda previously scheduled for those days.
It was all going well till someone said something about praying that our respective partners should be revealed to us by divine orchestrations, possibly through dreams. He said a whole lot but I was still confused, and I’ll tell you why at some point in this article.
A few other ministers spoke up about how they found out who their partners are. Some via a divine voice, some via dreams and revelations, and so on. Someone also pointed out that he knew who his wife was like five years prior to when they met. He said he knew her name and what she looked like, so he waited patiently until he finally met her.
At the close of the program, I was equipped with so much knowledge on how to be an ideal spouse, but there was a particular thing that kept troubling me. Fortunately, just as the program was about to end, the host asked if there was anyone who had a question.
I did, so I started to write mine down expecting a basket to pass around to collect the papers, but opted out the very minute it was stated that we would have to ask our questions standing in front of the entire congregation.
Now, since I couldn’t ask my question there, I’d ask here, please try to follow me. I apologize if it’s all too confusing. Just please, read as many times as you wish, you’ll get a hang of it, I promise. (Imagine that you’re in the congregation with me while you read the next couple of lines).
You say there’s a man that God has ordained for a woman to marry, (that is every single one of us are destined to marry partners divinely chosen for us way before we were even formed) but the only way to truly discern who the chosen one is, is by praying and obeying the will of God right?
Take me for instance, what happens when I am divinely convinced that a man is to be my spouse, and somehow we become friends, I tell him about my dreams and visions about us being a couple, but he turns me down completely, stating clearly that the most we can ever be are friends and nothing more.
Now, if this man settles for another lady, they get married and all that…
Does this mean that the partner God has ordained for me has been taken from me, hence, there is no one else for me, and even if i finally get to marry someone else, does this mean that I have married wrong?
Also, does this also mean that both myself and the man would suffer a bad marriage because we’re married to people God has not ordained for us?
Please make it make sense.
I had this conversation with a few friends and one of them was like,
“You better pray, if you miss it, Efe, if you miss it, it’ll only take grace for you to ever get it right”.
But then again, the God I serve is a merciful God, if truly I miss the man has chosen for me, Shall He not raise another?
I spoke to someone else about this same topic, and he said that there was absolutely nothing like God choosing partners for us. He further stated that it was our duty as Christians to prayerfully and wisely choose our partners, and when we do so, we present them in prayers before God.
Even as I type this, confusion is the order of the moment. I apologize if I also got you confused at any point. I just want answers!
Some people say when you find the ONE, you just know in your heart of hearts that it’s that person. Others say you have to prayerfully listen to what God tells you via dreams and revelations, and that listening to our hearts is like putting our emotions before our brains.
Now, the big question is, WHAT DO YOU SAY?
PS: I do not exactly know if this content is a good fit for this community, so please understand. Also, it's my first time here, so pleaseeeeee be nice😁😁.