Today is a beautiful day, a day to celebrate love not just between lovers. I have always believed it is a day we can all take advantage of to reach out to the people we care about. It could be a family member, a friend, a colleague, old school mates or anyone, it doesn't necessarily mean sending cakes, flowers or chocolates, it can be just a call or message to make them feel that even though we are apart, I still think about you and wish you well.
We define the purpose of today differently and I admire everyone's approach to valentine's as long as it is about expressing and spreading love to others.
The world is so congested and the people in it are all busy trying to make ends meet. We all have got responsibilities and dreams whether big or small that are pushing us to grind more and more in life.
We are all putting in the effort to make our lives better but we aren't getting the same results. There are different sides to life and what we going through might be different from what the people around us might be going through.
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Regardless of how tough journeying through life can be, there are lots of people who are good at hiding what they are truly going through from the people around them. It is not like they are living a fake life but they don't want to be a burden on others and some, they aren't just sure what will be people reaction when they voice out so they just bottle it up while it is eating them up until the point when they can't bear it anymore and decide to put an end to their pain the wrong way.
The number of suicide cases in the world is growing and the death of a particular person we know sometimes brings up questions we might never get answers to.
I was watching a particular video online and a guy was talking about how his friend who still partied yesterday was declared dead the next morning. It became a mystery to his friends when they got to know he committed suicide, the guy said his deceased friend was the life of the last night party and no one could tell that something terrible was going on in his head.
There are cases like this everywhere but we only get to hear the ones that made it to the internet.
After watching the video yesterday, I asked myself what kind of friends am I keeping and whether am I really playing the role of a friend. I am not blaming the friends but I couldn't stop thinking of how I will feel if I partied with him last night and he is gone the next morning.
I removed myself from some circle of friends last year because they were only concerned about social life.
They do not care about what's happening in your life and they just want you to match their trend.
As a friend, watching out for one another mental health should be a priority. Friendship shouldn't be about having fun always and there are times we need to sit down, ask each other about our mental health, and have a deep talk so we can know how to support one another. It is important to have listening ears as humans, talking too much sometimes will prevent people from pouring out their minds to us.
Suicide will never be the solution to solving any challenges in life and sometimes, it takes just speaking out to someone to make things right for ourselves. No matter how bad the people around you can be, there is always someone in your family you can always talk to so why bottle up the pain and everything threatening your existence mentally?
The society is not helping the situation, the pressure out there is something else and unfortunately, not everyone can handle them and still, suicide is never an option.
Life is too busy but taking out of our rest time to reach out to our loved ones is important. Just an "hello, how are you doing?" can change a lot of things and sometimes you have to share your problems to make them feel safe to pour out their mind to you. Forget about the beautiful faces we see them wear always, it doesn't define what's going on in their lives.
There was a time I usually felt like why didn't they talk to someone and I realized what it feels like when I was at my lowest in life. Not everyone feels safe to share their problems, and not everyone dares to do so but as friends, families, or even colleagues, coming through for one another by starting that conversation is important.
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