I wouldn't lie to you all , I jumped on their prompt because I find this to be a very interesting topic. I don't know about you guys but to me it's definitely a very personal one.
Marriage is one road we never get to know the end from the beginning. We just embark on the journey with hope, consistency, sacrifice, love etc. Praying not to give up in the way.
Marriage is a big puzzle. Believe me, Love and money are the big players. You heard me right. You've just got to juggle and balance them both. From love, that is warm and fuzz, to money, the real hard crunch.
Mix them up, maybe in marriage's big blender. Having in mind that it might be tricky if not used carefully.
Listen, this isn't Nollywood or Hollywood where love wins in the end. This is reality and in this reality, those two are very important factors.
There's more to think about of course—like the compatibility, the communication, and having common values and sense. But, that's not our chat topic this week. Let's stick to the focus.
Now views are different, for some people, love is the most important factor in marriage. They believe that if you truly love someone, you'll be able to work through any challenges that come up in the relationship. They believe that love is what makes a marriage successful and happy. And I won't counter that. That's fine.
On the other hand, some people believe that money is the most important factor in marriage. They think that financial security is essential for a happy and successful marriage. They believe that if you can't provide financially for your family financially, you're not man enough and if care isn't taken enough it might lead to conflict and unhappiness in the relationship. They also believe that money is important for ensuring a comfortable lifestyle and providing opportunities for growth and development.
A female friend told me sometime that "These days we don't marry for love, we marry because of what we are bound to gain. So that even if the love turns bitter, the gain we're getting in the marriage keeps us going"
Did I counter her? No.
Now judging by the different mindsets,I've come to realise that both love and money are important in a marriage. Why have one when you can have both and nobody feels cheated. Seriously, you don't have to question how one is more important than the other, but how are they important?
How do these two things team up to make a strong, happy relationship?
For a marriage to be healthy, both partners should feel loved and supported. Also, there should also be financial security and a sense of stability.
Look at it this way, when there is love without money, it can be difficult to feel secure and happy. As a man or the provider, you may feel like you're not able to provide for your family or that you're not living up to your partner's expectations. This can lead to resentment, lack of sense of accomplishment and personal conflict.
On the other hand, when you have money without love, it can also be very challenging. You may feel like your partner only values you for your money, and that you're not truly loved for who you are. You may feel like you're only loved because of your money. Sometimes you start to feel insecure and lonely. You might lose trust in your partner. You may even find yourself sacrificing your personal happiness for the sake of financial security.
So yes, I repeat, having both love and money in a marriage creates a balance that allows for happiness, security, and fulfilment.
You don't just feel loved and supported, you also have the financial resources you need to live a comfortable life. I truly believe that these combination is what leads to a truly happy and successful marriage.