Anyone may have the ability to speak but that does not necessarily mean that they are communicating. Uttering of words may seem so easy but when it comes to communication, you will realize that it is an art that should be mastered. This is why it has been said that the grammar with which you speak is not as important as what you have to say.
Many people may want to speak for very many reasons and most times this has altered the true meaning of communication. You do not say something because you are compelled to talk nor because you want to talk but because you have something meaningful to say. Even when saying something meaningful, the level of communication is determined by the way and manner you speak.
You will agree with me that the same words can be spoken repeatedly and each time with a different meaning because of the change in both tones and body languages. As much as words are important for communication, but effectiveness in communication is also determined by the tone of communication and other non-verbal communicators (like the body language).
Most times, your words are the last thing that people sense when you are communicating. Talk about your body language, tones, and facial expression first. This is why someone can tell you "I love you" but the body language will suggest otherwise and you will almost always go with the suggestion of the body language. For communication to be effective and complete, all the tools of communication must agree with the spoken words.
The truth is; you communicate more non-verbally than with the actual words. By instincts, we are always drawn to pick up the non-verbal languages more. The truth is; communication requires a "how to". There are some people that you may not be able to convince against their will with spoken words but with the right body language and facial expression, it will become easier.
Coming to the tone of communication; this also plays a very important role in communication. Tone is like the force behind the spoken words. You will agree with me that you may be making a very valid point but all those points can be lost in a moment by employing a careless tone. For example; shouting at the top of your voice in order to win argument is not worth it. Meanwhile, what is the need of winning the little battle and losing a much bigger war?
There are sometimes that you may want to dismantle a monstrous situation and with your words, you can get into more trouble and end up becoming the monster. In effective communication, you have to learn what to say and what not to say, when to say something and when to remain silent. Even silent itself is a tool for communication - for the wise.
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