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Should the past remain in the past, or should be brought to the present?
This is rather very serious than expected. People have different ideas and answers to this topic, If I could I would give everyone the opportunity to air their views.
Meanwhile, let me drop a brief piece of my mind on this topic. I understand couples would love to know everything about theirs partners but a matter of consideration should be, can I handle my partner's past?
Is it even necessary to dig my partner's past?
Well, I think no! In as much as you want to know everything about your partner, let them take you to their past out of freewill , respect their decision to keep it away.
Trust time, they will let you into their past with time. It's a gradual process.
If you are lucky and your partner let's you into their past, should you judge them? The past can never be the present, so you should never even imagine yourself judging your partner.
How about you get to hear about your partner's past from someone else? Don't forget in his/her past they was someone who is probably part of the present, so in some cases you may get to hear of your partner's past.
That doesn't mean you should get angry that your partner didn't tell you, he/she may have their reasons for not telling you.
As for me, I would prefer we leave the past behind and build the future!