I just turned on "If I Were A Boy By Beyonce” Sitting here while smiling at the first prompt, you know why? These were my initial thoughts as at this time yesterday, while I entered the kitchen after a long stressful day and yet still had to do some clean ups and then make preparations for dinner, before writing my post. On the other hand my elder brother was relaxed playing games, in his words to relieve stress.
Being the only girl among four boys, this had always been a regular routine especially at the time while I was still at my parents house. Only the heavens knows how many times I had wished to switch bodies with one of my brothers.
Sometimes, just merely looking at them, I would keep asking why I am the one chosen to be the daughter, why not Caleb or Nuel or even the others.. Why me?
I don't know about other families but in mine, being born as a daughter has no special benefit. There's nothing like daddy's girl or mommy’s hand bag.. Oh right! What i get is “Do the chores” and when it's not properly done or completed at the late hours you hear mommy make statement like “Is this how you want to live at your husband’s house” then when i try to give reasons the next words that follows is “You want others to say your mother didn't train you well right”
There's always these do and don't that comes with being a girl, unlike the world of a male child that's more simpler in these comparisons.
By the way, my mom normally involves my brothers in chores too but then am still held responsible for whatever goes wrong in her absence.
Am sure some of you guys would already be saying, mom isn't wrong to do the things she does, it's all home training. Oh, You're indeed right!
It's home training, home training matters, and mom does pretty well but then the pattern used is very vital, I am not going into that.
Anyways, for a mom like mine who always blesses God that she was given only one daughter whenever she scolds should pass you a message.
To be clearer, my mom isn't thankful because she has a daughter but because she has just one. Meaning to say it would have been better if she had none and just boys, now tell me why I wouldn't switch bodies with one of my brothers.
Unfortunately, these are just empty wishes even though the thoughts still come to me sometimes, using yesterday as instance, it wouldn't change me from being a female.
The best i could do is putting my wishes aside and accept these fact of being made a female, thereby making good use of the advantages that comes with my gender.