I've been living on Bitcoin for +10 years and have no problem with the fee market. There is many ways to move, stack, spent Bitcoin and while I agree that the LN 2nd layer isn't great it's there for "spending" not for wealth storage like the main-chain.
Now, if anyone were to send me 0.1 BTC right now I'd swallow the fee and ask for the on-chain payment. If that person however wants to send me their weekly $50 "DCA" (lol) I'd ask them to zap it on the LN. Same goes for coinjoin, opening channels or consolidating wallet inputs.
Then there is BTC enabled debit cards which are literally accepted everywhere and I can fallback to those funds any time if I have to spend BTC for fiat purchases.
I think you just havern't found your way yet when it comes to the "how" to live on Bitcoin.