We gather information in many ways. Direct experience, observation from afar, word of mouth and so on. All of those things combine and we begin to form a perception. Intuition plays a role also, women are good at that one. They all combine to give us the information we act upon.

From there we need to apply honesty, make decisions based on the information and the thoughts, feelings and emotions we feel because of them. Sometimes we look at the whole thing and decide against it, other times we convince ourselves to move forward...We never really know what might come until we experience a little more I guess though. I think one of the most important elements is not to be too hard on oneself when we get it wrong. We need to understand that we made the best decision we could based on the information to hand at the time. Something like that anyway.

As humans we're really good at deception I guess, and especially good at deceiving ourselves.