Hello my friends from @Motherhood, it's a pleasure to be here again wishing you to be surrounded by the people you love. Today I want to share with you something that has made me rethink my way of communicating with my children, and it is that we live more and more hectic and where we want to strive to make our children can have the comfort that we did not have, but in that way we may, without realizing it, we are not doing something very important, knowing how to listen.
And I say this because we could confuse this, thinking that just hearing when they talk to us about any issue and looking at them briefly and in the same way without realizing it, just responding with a yes my love, it's ok, or you can take it, will leave our children satisfied. This is very common and if you are reading me you could identify with this, personally this made me reflect and evaluate the matter more.
For example: one day my son told me that he wanted to do a certain chemistry experiment for his final project at school, but when he expressed it to me he told me how in a thoughtful way. This could be seen as something very normal but it is in us to know how to capture when our children ask for our help and attention without saying it in a direct way, something I could have expressed for that moment to him is to tell him: my love, the one you choose will be the best.
These words may sound very encouraging to him, but it may not be what he was looking for when he expressed his doubt to me, for this reason we must learn to listen to our children and realize when our children talk to us to help them and respond in the right way, and sometimes the obligations of the day consume us a lot, but we must always give it a stop, and give full attention to our children.
That conversation made me see that my son was not looking for me to give him a quick opinion, deep down he was expressing something like, I have these two options and I need you to help me choose which one will be the most appropriate. Our children need to feel that we really listen to them, that is to say, to know how to recognize that they need our guidance because they feel that it is difficult for them to carry out a certain task, and it is here where we must be very perceptive, since not all children express it in a direct way.
The most important thing is not to impose ourselves as parents but on the contrary to decide together, putting on the dialogue table the options because choosing one thing and rejecting the other, in this way our children will know how to make good decisions in the future and be clear to dissipate all doubts when choosing an option. That is why as a parent I should always know how to listen to my child and in this way my communication with him will be open and of quality.
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