Sorry about mom, it must have been tough coping without her at a very tender age.
I have seen a case of death at birth and it was disastrous, I was shocked when the husband said God should have taken the child and left his precious wife, a lot must be running in the man's head so I can't blame him.
It is the first time I am hearing the word "Tokophobia" and certainly, a lot of females are experiencing it. It is hard to tell what the future is for every human but I pray that the Almighty God will help all Pregnant women put to bed safely.
Your brother is really big now, how time flies.