Marry

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At the age of 20 to 25, many of my friends were married. Nothing special and secret anymore. Because this usually happens in different areas of my country. That age is a reasonable age even as if many people expect to have a formal relationship.

There are many reasons for marriage at that age. Usually marriage occurs because of three things: love, no other purpose after graduating from formal education, and pressure by other people. There are actually a few more reasons why. However, I am interested in discussing only these three reasons.

The first reason: Love. In my country, where the majority of the population is Muslim, it is considered wrong to have sex if the person who does it is not married. While someone who loves each other is impossible to forget about sex (of course other things are also like caring for each other, spending time with each other, and giving each other).

So it is incomplete if the relationship of someone who loves each other is not realized by marriage. In addition, marriage can also be proof of someone's seriousness in a relationship. By getting married, a couple will commit themselves to love each other. They even have to change their priorities in life.

The second reason: not having a goal after graduating from college. Maybe this sounds ridiculous. But the facts are quite fun to discuss. Many of the youth in this area do not have big life goals (which need to be pursued until marriage is postponed).

What is the purpose of life after completing higher education? The average person will get married. Working? Of course, to meet the necessities of life. Besides that? They will get married. Because marriage is a life achievement that a person has without having to do deep reflection.

The third reason: the pressure of others. Oh no, it looks like someone has no principles in life and makes it go with the flow. You know, in fact it is like this. Many people get married because of the pressure of others who often ask "when are you getting married?"

Urgent people usually come from close relatives, close friends, parents, anyone who has closeness. Especially for women. The intensity of the question "when did you get married?" Will get it more often. Usually this question has the meaning of "as it is", also has the meaning of "demeaning" or "showing that the person asking has accomplished great things." A kind of manifestation of one's arrogance.

Ask from the heart? I don't really believe in that selfish question.

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I'm sorry if I show a fairly negative opinion. Thank you for stopping here. Is your place the same as mine about marriage ambitions? I'm quite fed up with this.