I have been deliberating on what to write about this topic presented to us by the #hivelearners and now I think I have found my starting point and I am motivated enough to put my brain into use.
Years back when I was still in my youthful days, I have always been a lover of romantic movies and novels that I prefer to go hungry to get them and also trekked to school all for the love of these things but I try to distinguish between both as I need to always be conscious of the reality and not let the fantasy of the movies and novels get into my lifestyle and so far so good I made it...
Back in this modern world, romantic movies and novels are what are in vogue now, majority of the population is a lover of anything romantic as it is always a beautiful sight to behold.
The love shared between couples and how they both were able to fight life and situations just to be together and at last, they found a happy ending, this story only is enough to trap one into the realm of unending hopes and wishes...😂🤗
As we all know the popular saying, too much of everything is bad, and also what you see stays longer in the memory than what you hear, that is to say, every page, scene, and character of both romantic movies and novels are stored in our long term memory and that is why when we are expecting too much in a relationship, we don't see it as a crime because you are now controlled by your love for the movies and novel acts...
You just want everything in your life to be picture perfect, beautiful, and lovely, have you ever sat down for once to think all that you have been watching, reading, and emulating are not real and is nothing but FICTION and why is it that I am so much into it?
When you are so into romantic movies and novels, in one way or the other your lifestyle will slowly change and before you know it you will end up with this unquenchable urge to always get what you wish for in your real-life relationship. Have you ever realized in life that whatever has a sweetness will surely have a little bit of bitterness?
Romantic movies and novels will make you crave certain things in a relationship;
it might make one have high expectations from his real-life partner and when your partner doesn't meet up with the standard as seen in movies or you read in the book, you might start feeling less of him or her
Comparison: you might start by comparing the gifting patterns, and styles of love they approach to each other, different trips at short intervals, etc. which might not be realistic.
The moment we realize that the movies and novels we read are all fictional stories and shouldn't be used as a yardstick to measure our real-life relationships, the better for us to have a healthy relationship in which we can always work on, and spice it up with the way it will suit both partners.
In summary, romantic novels and movies give one high hopes which will definitely lead to disappointment if care is not taken.
This post was inspired by the hive learners community contest on the topic ROMANTIC STORIES.
Thanks for reading!!!