Tough life lesson

Life is not a bed of roses & ups and downs both are part of life. This is the law of nature and no one can deny the reality. Nobody wants to encounter tough times but it comes automatically and naturally every tough time comes with lessons. Again most of the tough times make us strong.

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I am still 25 but I didn't struggle too much in my life according to my opinion. Maybe it's because I was only busy with my study or I was living a life of fantasy for a long period of time. I think I encountered only a few tough incidents and the most tough incident was the time when my mother was in hospital during the time of the pandemic. It was the time I was seriously helpless and my mother was struggling to survive. I have shared about it in a post. Almost I stayed in the hospital for 15 days and it was the first time I stayed in the hospital. So, It was naturally difficult to cope up with the situation. Moreover, I could not allow my father to take too much pressure because I was concerned about my father's health also. And as a result, most of the pressure was handled by me at that time. In that time I needed two kinds of support. One is financial and the another one is mental support.

In case of financial support I needed it as it was a sudden thing and withdrawing money from the bank was not possible because it was the time of the weekend and the bank was off. I asked for financial help from some close people and they directly refused to help. I felt a little heartbroken thinking that my father helped them many times in their crisis situation, not even considering whether they would return the money or not. A couple of times my family went through a financial crisis for it. It was the time I realized that people don't treat us like we treat them. I asked for temporary help and I believe my family deserves a little favor in the time of emergency. Close relatives just refused by showing excuses. That time I realized how helpful and kindful person my father is. Maybe he doesn't have huge money but he doesn't hesitate to help people even if he needs to suffer for it.

The another kind of help is mental help. I was very nervous and broken from the inside. I think if someone would say something positive, it would give me a lot of strength and courage. My mother was in a situation between life and death and no one bothered to make a phone call to ask about the condition of my mother. My mother was in the village and almost all the family members also were all acknowledged that my mother's condition was not so good and even they didn't bother to ask the condition what the situation was. I was hurt to encounter that kind of behavior from my close relatives. I think my father was more hurt to see that kind of behavior of family members. Only my grandmother (mother's mother) and my aunt tried to know the condition and tried to help me both mentally and financially.

It's said that we can understand the nature of humans in our tough times. I was living a world of fantasy before that and I thought many people care about us. But in the time when we were facing tough times, my fantasy world shattered and I realized the cruel real world. Whatever it was their choice and they had the right to do that. They forgot humanity and I realized that humanity disappeared from their heart at least for my family. It was a hard reality. In the past, I was expecting their concerns but that tough time made me realize I should not expect something from them and that thing made me strong enough to face that kind of situation alone. In fact, from the next time, I didn't inform them about any tough situation because I felt spending the little penny to call them was a waste of money. It was the incident that made me strong enough to handle the crisis and pressure situation with courage and not to expect help from others.