Personally, when it comes to age I see it as something we humans give to ourselves just to make life difficult for ourselves. Yes it’s good but sometimes we miss the point of why there should be age in the first place. The fact that we ascribe respect to age is one major reason I think we’ve missed the point. Age shouldn’t be a criterion for me respecting anyone, whether or not they are older than me. Too bad, in our world today, so many people have lost those they actually loved because the lady they love is way older than them and the society believes that will make the lady automatically disrespectful.
Like I mentioned to someone, a lady can be way younger than her partner but can be very disrespectful as well because that is just how she was raised. Not even age can change anyone who is respectful or not. So with that in mind, I’d say getting married to someone older than you or younger shouldn’t be a problem, what matters is, as a lady can I respect him? And as a guy, can I be her head? If the answer you get is a yes, then to such a person age is just a number.
For a second just stop and think, what if there was no number given to anyone, besides it’s not written on our heads, we only get to know a person’s age when they tell us. And not everyone is truthful about it. If they choose to tell a lie about their age we might see that it won’t matter at all. Because besides respect, I’m still yet to know what use age has in a relationship and if that is the only use, like I mentioned at the beginning, that is a misconception. Respect should be there whether or not you are older or younger.
So personally, I don’t want to be a judge when it comes to ladies getting married to someone way older than them or younger as long they are compatible in other areas. In fact, age should be the least thing we want to worry about. What I care about is if my partner and I are compatible medically, spiritually, emotionally and then if our parents approves of us. If I know fully well my parents might have a problem with our age and I know we are compatible in every other way, I might even choose to avoid that question of age when it comes so as to save everyone the stress of too much disagreement, hehe.
But! It would be a lot easier to just get married to someone who is around a month or at most 5 years older than me to save us the stress of trying to give a reason why we will make a great couple. Because no matter what, it’s hard for people to change, they are already use to a situation when the man is older and trying to change that is a problem for most of them. But besides that, I believe age is just a number and there are other important things to consider for choosing a life partner than just their age.
Humans are always going to have a problem with a lady getting married to a younger guy and that is part of the challenges some have to overcome to be with the people they want to be with. So if you know you can’t stand it don’t just bother making the mistake of trying to make something like that work because only one word from someone might set your relationship ablaze, lol. But we all should try and disabuse our minds from the misconception that age is what determines whether or not someone will be submissive or respectful.
This is my response to the question chosen for the first edition in the Hivelearners community on ”AGE IS JUST A NUMBER”.