“A sincere and warmly-expressed apology can produce the same effects as morphine on a suffering soul.”― Richelle E. Goodrich
Sorry is just a simple word that can turn the situation of things around for good. It has the power to prevent war, amend relationships and even heal the soul. I learned how powerful the word can be over a decade ago and I have never stopped saying it even when I don't mean it. The word is so powerful that even saying it in pretense can still do the magic and all you need is just to say it.
Many times, I have said that I don't know who came up with the word "sorry" but the person made apologizing very easy for anyone to do. There are several ways of saying sorry, people buy gifts like flowers, chocolate, and others which can sometimes be difficult to do when there is no money but saying sorry won't cost you a dime.
Despite not paying anything for the word, I believe it is invaluable.
I am one of the few people who doesn't bother whether I am wrong or right before saying sorry, I always try as much as possible to avoid problems, and saying sorry whether I mean it or not always helped. As long as sorry will make peace reign, I wouldn't hesitate to say it.
I do say sorry to anyone, it doesn't matter the age or gender. I always admit my mistakes no matter how ugly the situation may be because I have a good conscience that disturbs me when I am wrong and refuse to admit my mistakes.
A lot of people find it difficult to say sorry because of ego and many other silly reasons. Saying sorry doesn't take away your integrity or the respect people have for you, and it doesn't make you less human. I have seen people insisting on not saying sorry because they don't want to be taken for a weak person which is completely wrong thinking.
Not being able to say sorry when you are wrong is what makes you a weakling, it will make people lose respect for you because you can't admit your mistakes.
Despite being the one to always say sorry even when I am not wrong, there are times I have chosen not to say sorry. It is very unusual of me and whenever I do that my family knows that there will be a concrete reason for my decision.
About a year ago, a very close friend of mine informed me about his younger sister getting married. I was excited about it and after he told me how much the Aso Ebi would cost, the excitement vanished.
I calculated about 50k for the cloth and sowing. The party would happen in another state and after calculating about a hundred thousand naira, I told myself I might not attend the event. I told him the money was much because I have lots of responsibilities on me that don't give me leftovers for such expenses but I was going to try.
I said it to the point that if it was his wedding, I will definitely look for the money by all means and his response that day wasn't cool.
After that conversation, I made up my mind not to attend whether I can afford the cloth or not.
The wedding happened and there is this other friend of ours who didn't attend the wedding as well. He called to ask if I attended and I said no, he told me he has been calling our friend whose sister got married but he wouldn't pick up.
He wanted to apologize for not attending because of financial challenges and this guy hasn't been picking up his calls. I had the intention of apologizing as well but from what I heard. I choose not to do so anymore because I can't figure out why you should be mad at your friends for not attending your sister's wedding.
We all have our struggles and if life is perfect for you doesn't mean it is the same for everyone. I choose not to apologize and it's been over 8 months, and he didn't call to say hello. If he valued what we shared, he wouldn't have treated any of his friends that way.
I was tempted to call him earlier this year but made sure I didn't, I don't care if we won't talk again as long as he doesn't realize his mistake.
One thing about me is that if he called me now, I won't allow him to alter a word before I will apologise. Not having anything to do with him hasn't affected me in any way, he is not adding any specific value to me so I am fine.
It is a terrible thing when we don't consider people or bother about what's happening in their life and for my conscience not to have bothered me for not saying sorry, I think saying sorry is not necessary.