People forget stereotypes aren't bad because they are untrue. Stereotypes are bad because they are not always true. If we allow ourselves to another based on stereotypes, we have allowed a gross generalization to replace our thinking ~ George Takci
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Often people tend to judge us based on their own beliefs about us without taking time to get to know us. I feel like we all unconsciously do this at times without knowing we are judging people
When I got my job my recent job. I was ecstatic and so eager to learn. I was happy because getting a job these days is so hard but I was fortunate to get a job, so yes I was happy and grateful to God. I was based in another state previously and needed to relocate for the job, so I was staying with my cousin. I was new to my job, my boss was a very demanding man and on top of that, I was told that I was on probation for three months to check my performance, so I had to be very effective to keep my job.
Because I was new to the company, I was trying to get to know other people, I didn't want to rush into friendships with anyone. There was this lady in the office, I noticed that whenever I was in the office or I tried talking to her, she was always snubbing me and forcefully answering my questions. I was confused and I tried so much to think if I had any negative encounters with her but no matter how hard I think, I can't recall anything and I was sure we had no encounter.
Then one day, I caught her talking about me, I would say she was saying it to my face. She told me I was too proud and full of myself, that I was always dressing up as if I was the only one in the office who has better clothes. To say I was shocked is an understatement, I was shell-shocked. I couldn't believe what she was saying, I was just trying to do my job not to show off. As a salesperson, I felt I had an image to uphold and hence the dressing, and aside from that I always feel like no matter what we should always dress up I mean who dresses shabby to work.
how the judgement affected me
When she spread the gossip about me, other staff were giving me attitude. I was frustrated, I was miles away from home, working so hard at my job and trying to develop myself personally. I was so sad and lonely, it was so obvious that she hated me and was always antagonizing me. It got to a point that I called home crying that I was tired of my job because of all the hate and that I was coming back home. When I got home and told my cousin, she told me the lady was probably jealous of me and the only way she could hurt me was through her words, she said I needed to ignore her and pretend as though she didn't exist. So from that day, I told myself I would never let her word or anybody's opinion of me affect me negatively, and that decision as being the best so far because now I know that people tend to judge you mostly because they are jealous of you.