I Should Not Have Promised
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Promises are very powerful, in the days of the old, they were esteemed highly to the extent that in the holy bible, it was captured that anyone who knows can't fulfill a promise should not even give one out. Meaning it is even blessed to say I am not sure, but let's see how it goes than to say I promise. hehhe.
But in our day reverse is the case, our generation doesn't take anything seriously, our generation wants to always act smart, no wonder we are suffering and we can't really pinpoint what the problem is.
Some people say "promises are made to be broken, and rules are as well made to be broken," I believe most of us have come across those statements before, of course in one way or another other we will certainly break promises and rules but one thing we often forget is that there are consequences attached to doing that. In fact, it is even safer if you broke them unknowingly, at least, you might be considered if you apologize but he who deliberately breaks these things will have himself to blame for the aftermath.
Take for instance our beloved politicians, after every four years, come forth with upgraded lies (promises) to lure us into voting for them, but as soon as they enter into power they throw those promises away. You see how unserious our generation is right? We only care about ourselves. In those days kings and rulers were known for their words.
In one way or the other most of us, if not all have broken promises before for one reason or the other. For me, I have done it countless times and though I am trying really hard to avoid breaking them, I am sure I will still break some one day. The best way to stay safe is not to promise anything at all. If it's in your capacity to get a thing done, just go ahead and do it and save us the lies.
My Story
A few months back, I called a friend who seemed to have forgotten me for long, she doesn't call, she doesn't text, not even on social media. When I called we spoke at length and I expressed my grievance over her uncaring attitude. She quietly waited for me to finish talking after which she said "Can I bill you? (Ask for money)" Hehe, I laughed, in my mind, I was like" Is this lady for real? Well go ahead if I can I will do it but I am broke" I replied. I expected her to understand my condition but no.
She insisted that I should promise her I was going to send the money, I tried to dodge it but she made me approve of the promise. Well, I did, in fact, I even gave her a fixed day. That day came and passed and I didn't fulfil the promise. I wished to send the money, but seriously things were difficult then. most ladies don't understand the language of I don't have. I wished I hadn't promised her but it has happened already there is nothing I can do.
How Did My Action Affect Our Relationship?
Well, to date, we have not spoken on the phone, I am even feeling bad to call her because I know she is definitely going to ask for the money and for failing her, she is going to see me like a liar. Her trust in me will definitely be affected. I even tried chatting her up a few days back but she hasn't viewed it talk more of replying. I have seen her online several times but she has not dropped me any message.
I have learned my lessons, instead of giving out fake promises, I will just learn to tell the truth, at least no one will beat me. If I can, fine if I can not, I rather say it out there. Breaking promises hurts badly, I have been victimized too, and I know how it feels. I wish those vows husband and wife make on the alter needed to be reviewed, most people don't really know the degree of what they are entering into with such promises. Maybe churches should stop giving the couple responses and allow make those marriage vows sincerely from their hearts.
"Promise and fail is a sin" as it is said. Never allow anyone to force you into promising anything you know you can't fulfill. The truth might be bitter but it sets free in the days of calamity.