We often find out that we don't have a strong value in the eyes of people. And so we tend to get bad treatment from the people. And we tend to wonder why people are treating as if we don't have any form of value? So the reason is often we lose value unless we add value. It's like bank account, you lose money every time you interact with people.
So why should we not stay when our value is lost?
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Value Gets Used with Each Interaction
Whenever you meet a new person, you get new value added to your and their brain account. You add value then you become positive and you remove the value then people don't want to be around you. So the value gets added and removed with each interaction. How it develops in your favor or against you is another matter of concern. But you realize how that ends up as the time goes on ahead slowly.
Unless You Bring New to Table You Lose Value
You have to constantly bring something new to the table. And so that is the only way to bring out new value in the market. Same goes with the relationship. You bring value, you get rewarded with good feelings, love and attention. You drop the value on the table and come empty handed even your family would be ditching you.
Familiarity Breeds Contempt
There is a strong saying in all cultures. More you know a person, the less you would want to see your future with them. And so that goes with the strong reasoning that familiarity brings contempt. So you have to always understand that you don't share too much of personal information and instead only share the information that's necessary.
It's Hard to Regain Value in Heart Long Term
You may feel that once your novelty ends in the eyes of groups, family and friends. They start to lose the value from their accounts for you. And another thing is that it is not easy to get trust in this world and people often give low value to the people who overshare their information. So you have to be taking some distance in between two information sources to retain the value.
We have the habit of staying around the known people even if we lose the value. And the thing is that continue to lose the value on everyday basis often we being unsure about where it all goes. So you have to learn to maintain the value.
Conclusion
In our life we tend to be around people despite losing the value. And we have to keep some gap in between in our life when we want to retain our value. We have to learn to ignore other people and we have to learn to build trust in our process. So that seems to be the only way we can have proper distance while having the value.
Have you noticed you losing value the more you know that person? especially among strangers?