I learned this concept pretty recently. It goes something like this. Do you hate or just don't stand certain people? Stop thinking about them. More you think about them the more rent free they live in your head. And if you don't live rent free in anyone's brain why would you want someone else do the same.
So do you let people stay in your brain and memory and let it consume energy to get you live rent free?
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Let's discuss how to handle this situation.
Stop thinking about those people who are toxic in nature.
You may come across some relationship where you will be treated badly and also you may not like how they are being treated and you are being treated. And son you have to get out of that type of the relationship. You have to grow over that piece of the past. And in that case you have to stop thinking about those type of the people.
Replace Toxic people with Positive People
This one is really hard. You have to meet 10 good and 100 bad people in order to see the reality of this statement. People in general are selfish in nature. And you have to regularly clean them up from your head. If you don't do that then the problem persists. You have to some of the time replace those type of the people with better or good type of the people.
If you can't avoid toxic people know how to manage and distance them
You may find that people in your life are toxic and there is nothing you can do about it. And you have to learn to keep some distance and don't feed them much. You have to learn to manage their toxicity in your life. You may find that it's not always good to engage with them and confront them. You would do much better when you don't feed their brain with your data and move on ahead.
You have to learn to respond instead of react.
You may find that your people management skills need some level of tweaking too. You can't make amend with people when you are reacting to every thing that they say. You have to learn to respond to how things happen around instead of reacting. Reacting would get you out of your focus and it becomes harder to live with people.
Life gets a bit harder when you are trying to adjust with people you don't like. You can't move on from your actions with them and adjusting and even looking at their face becomes harder. And so you have to stop adding more memories of such people in brain.
Conclusion
People come into life to teach us some lesson. One good lesson that you have to learn from the experience here is that you are supposed to keep some distance with other people. And so in that context you have to also learn to not let them have rent free space in your head.
How do you handle people and not let them space in your head to live rent free?